Loss can enable compassion for others.
Pat78
Woodstown, New Jersey | Woman Seeking A Man
Basic Information
First name
Pat
I Can Speak
English, Spanish
I Would Describe Myself As
I am a sincere, compassionate, well-educated person. I am a sensitive person and would like to avoid being hurt by deception. I have traditional values and like being respected as a lady. I am a practicing Catholic and my faith is important to me. My faith in God and the good people in my life have enabled me to manage the sorrow of my husband’s death. I have had the blessing of kindness extended so often. I see the hand of God at those times.
My husband died of a brain tumor 4.5 years ago. He was always healthy until that point in time and the illness was incurable. I have spent a good bit of time processing my grief. Since Mike’s death, I do virtual support work for the brain tumor community. I often say that with grief, “The deeper the love, the more profound the grief.” I was married for almost 40 years to a wonderful husband. We had no children and had a loving and happy life, often doing a great deal for family. Our life was a very decent and good life, so I have no skeletons in the closet to hide.
Prior to retirement, I was a school counselor and in my early career, a Spanish teacher. I have a Master’s and Bachelor of Science degree. My career was important to me. In retirement, I use my time for volunteer work: on Board of local food pantry, ministry in my parish, help at a soup kitchen, support for brain tumor community, etc. My work related to brain tumor community has been a way to help others suffering the terrible disease which caused my husband to die. Often when we help others, we can transform something painful by giving to others.
I have a home which I love. My yard/gardens are my joy when the weather is nice. I enjoy time outdoors a great deal. Other interests are walking, yoga, exercising, spending time with friends. The topic of travel arises. I like going away a few times/year, but I am not one who needs to be going somewhere all the time. I can be content in my local surroundings.
As for politics, which seem to be a large issues currently, I am an Independent. I am aware of issues, but do not like constant talk of politics nor do I like someone trying to push their opinions on me. My views are conservative rather than liberal.
I was raised in Greenville, DE and moved to NJ when we married in 1978. I am the oldest of five sisters who live in various places now. Along life’s way we spent lots of time with family and our nieces and nephews were important to us.
As I move along in this journey, I say that my life is in God’s hands and pray for guidance.
My husband died of a brain tumor 4.5 years ago. He was always healthy until that point in time and the illness was incurable. I have spent a good bit of time processing my grief. Since Mike’s death, I do virtual support work for the brain tumor community. I often say that with grief, “The deeper the love, the more profound the grief.” I was married for almost 40 years to a wonderful husband. We had no children and had a loving and happy life, often doing a great deal for family. Our life was a very decent and good life, so I have no skeletons in the closet to hide.
Prior to retirement, I was a school counselor and in my early career, a Spanish teacher. I have a Master’s and Bachelor of Science degree. My career was important to me. In retirement, I use my time for volunteer work: on Board of local food pantry, ministry in my parish, help at a soup kitchen, support for brain tumor community, etc. My work related to brain tumor community has been a way to help others suffering the terrible disease which caused my husband to die. Often when we help others, we can transform something painful by giving to others.
I have a home which I love. My yard/gardens are my joy when the weather is nice. I enjoy time outdoors a great deal. Other interests are walking, yoga, exercising, spending time with friends. The topic of travel arises. I like going away a few times/year, but I am not one who needs to be going somewhere all the time. I can be content in my local surroundings.
As for politics, which seem to be a large issues currently, I am an Independent. I am aware of issues, but do not like constant talk of politics nor do I like someone trying to push their opinions on me. My views are conservative rather than liberal.
I was raised in Greenville, DE and moved to NJ when we married in 1978. I am the oldest of five sisters who live in various places now. Along life’s way we spent lots of time with family and our nieces and nephews were important to us.
As I move along in this journey, I say that my life is in God’s hands and pray for guidance.
Sign
Virgo
Appearance & Situation
My Body Type Is
Average
My Height Is
5' 3 (1.6 m)
My Eyes Are
Blue
My Ethnicity Is
Caucasian
My Marital Situation Is
Widowed
I Have Kids
No
I Want Kids
No
Body Art
Wouldn't Even Think About It
My Hair Is
Brown
I Have One Or More Of These
No pets
Willing To Relocate
No
Status
My Education Level Is
University Degree
My Current Employment Status Is
Retired
My Speciality Is
Education / Academic
My Job Title Is
Retired
I Live
Alone
At Home
All Is Calm
I'm A Smoker
No
I Drink
No
Personality
Back In High School, I Was A
Quiet One
My Social Behavior Is
Reserved, Friendly
My Interest And Hobbies Are
Religion / Spirituality, Family, Dining, Exercising, Learning, Gardening, Volunteering
My Idea Of A Great Time Is
Hanging Out With Friends, Going Shopping, Staying At Home, Relaxing, Going To A Concert, Going To A Museum
An Ideal First Date Would Be
Meeting casually for coffee, lunch or dinner.
I've Always Wanted To Try
To earn a doctoral degree.
My Friends Describe Me As Being
Friendly, Someone They Want To Be
Views
My Religion Is
Catholic
I Attend Services
Once A Week
My Political Views Are
Conservative
My Goal In Life Is
To live a well-balanced life of good health, peace, happiness and being of service to others.
My Kind Of Humor Is
Friendly
Taste
On Tv, I Always Watch
News, Instructional, Sports
When I Go To The Movies, I Always Go To See A
Comedy
When Listening To Music, I Always Listen To
Rock
When I Read, I Always Read
Health, Home & Garden, Instructional, Philosophy, Religious
My Idea Of Fun Is
Working in my garden, spending time with friends/family, helping with a charitable project, a drive to beach or place of interest for the day, spending time in nature.
Looking for
What Do You Find Attractive?
Money, Sensitivity, Empathy, Great Skills, Good Looks, Thoughtfullness, Intelligence
What Do You Look For?
I am a sensitive person and I look for sincerity, thoughtfulness, a person of faith,
a person who is able to understand at meaningful levels. To be respected as a lady is essential to me. Of course, there must be an attraction, but physical beauty without good character is not acceptable.
a person who is able to understand at meaningful levels. To be respected as a lady is essential to me. Of course, there must be an attraction, but physical beauty without good character is not acceptable.
What Kind Of Relationship Are You Seeking?
Friend, Date